Get your Wingwoman (or Man!)

Have you ever been at a party with that guy that can’t stop talking about himself?

We’ve all been there, our smiles plastered to our faces, while inside, we’re tracking, like predators that break in the conversation that means we can get out, get out!

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Make Like the Merrill Lynch Ladies and Build Your Circle

Raise your hand if you like self-important people? The “humble” brag? Now raise your hand if you like talking about or claiming your accomplishments? Are you more likely to deflect your kudos with an ‘Aww, it wasn’t me,’ or a redirecting shrug?

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Bring Your Intuition to Work Day

There’s a thing I do that I call gut listening.

I do it in client meetings when I’m trying to understand what the client really wants and how that might be different from what they are saying. I do it with my Build Yourself+ coaching clients as I seek to understand the challenges they face and to compose personal challenge tasks that will move their goals forward.

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The Work-Life Collapse Attack Meltdown! & How to Handle It

There’s a thinking pattern that I’ve been seeing in the women I work with.

We all know about the comparison gremlins (she bought a house, I’m still renting, wow that woman owns her own company and she’s only 22? and ohmigosh what about all those babies–or grandbabies–on facebook?) Sometimes, when I see women struggle with the gulf between where they are and where they want to be, they do what I’ve come to call the work-life collapse attack meltdown.

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Between Submissiveness and Defensiveness: How To Walk The Middle Path Of Confidence

Have you ever worked with someone whose personality turned you into a yesman? Whether they meant to or not, they came on so strong that you felt bowled over, your boundaries evaporating?

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Mia Scharphie and Build Yourself+ in Landscape Architecture Magazine

Mia Scharphie, the Build Yourself+ founder is in this month’s issue of Landscape Architecture Magazine. The profile covers the ways she sees issues of impact and community change and frames the Build Yourself+ as part of a larger philosophy.

Click here to read the full profile.

How Will You Know You’ve Been Successful? Letting Play and Rigor Into Your Goals

I recently went out for a reunion meetup with my spring 2015 class of the Build Yourself+ workshop. I didn’t initiate the night. When I got an email from a former participant suggesting a reunion I felt a thrill.

She was meeting my personal challenge goal.

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NEA Webinar Now Online: Women in Social Impact Design

A few weeks ago I helped organize and participated in a webinar on Women in Social Impact Design with Katie Swenson, VP of Enterprise Community Partners. My co-panelists were rock stars–Dawn Hancock of Firebelly Design, Liz Ogbu of Studio O, Lakshmi Ramarajan of Harvard Business School.

The webinar is up for viewing on the National Endowment of the Art’s website, check it out here.

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